Posts Tagged ‘phlegmatic’

Open Letter: Throw Me a Bone

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Dear You,

Glue. Yeah, glue. That’s what I feel like. I’m not flashy like glitter that jazzes up a craft project. I’m not as purposeful as a sign announcing a coming event, and I’m certainly not awe inspiring like da Vinci’s Mona Lisa. But I’m the glue often used to hold such artwork together. It’s an important role, but I often go unnoticed. That’s how I feel. I don’t need or want the spotlight. I just need a pat on the back from time to time. In other words, “Throw me a bone.”

I’m made to be dependable. I’m the rock everyone seeks. I’ll carry the weight of the world on my shoulders like Atlas. I’m made for that role, but it gets hard when I don’t stand out enough for people to notice. When troubles come a callin’, that’s when people come a callin’ on dependable, diplomatic me, but then they fade away as quickly as they came until the next time a need arises. (more…)

Posted by on October 28th, 2013 5 Comments

Surviving the Unmotivated Phlegmatic in Your Life

Lazy. Indifferent. Distant.

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Can you relate? Does someone in your life display these unmotivated traits? Well, you are probably encountering a phlegmatic. From my observations and talking to people, I think this could possibly be the most misunderstood personality type because they are sneaky. If you’ve been following this series you will understand it when I say that the other three personality types have more identifiable traits we must contend with.

The sanguine = living an “over-the-top” lifestyle when it comes to appearance, style, and actions (talking, attention seeking.)

The choleric = controlling things around them and always doing (intensity)

The melancholy = perfectionist, critical, and super-sensitive (moody) (more…)

Posted by on October 14th, 2013 4 Comments

Spiritual Personalities, Part 4 – Phlegmatic

Of all the personality types, the “whatever goes” phlegmatic probably is the one who has the easiest time embracing God and Christianity. Being the personality that most seeks peace, the peace offered by faith in Jesus Christ fits well in this easy-going person’s life.

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View of God

God is a place of rest and comfort for all who choose a life in Him. This appeals to, and even beckons the phlegmatic. This personality avoids chaos and that is what the Christian life is all about. The Christian lifestyle doesn’t take the chaos out of life, but it does helps one find a supernatural rest when mayhem finds the phlegmatic. Additionally, phlegmatic personalities aren’t all about action/adventure like their more extroverted sanguine and choleric counterparts, so they are drawn to the peaceful aspects of God and Jesus (the Prince of Peace.)

John 14:27 is like a soothing bubble bath to the phlegmatic soul, “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give you.” (more…)

Posted by on August 19th, 2013 No Comments

WHO ARE YOU?? Whoo, whoo, whoo, whoo…

OK, for you regular readers, yes, I’m aware that I just put an unrelated post smack dab in the middle of a four-part series. But that’s OK. I needed a change of pace this morning and decided to draw some owls. Random….I know. But even us “not-so-spontaneous” introverts need a total change in direction. I’ll continue with the current series on spiritual personalities (and finish it) in the next few days. Thanks for indulging me this interruption. I need it :)

So….on to owls. Whoo, whoo are YOU when it comes to owls? This material is based mainly on a visual observation, but sometimes it is amazing how accurate assessing someone by their appearance can be. For example, I occasionally help a friend of mine out at her dry cleaning business. A huge part of that job is customer service and, because of my knowledge of personalities, I’m very good at interacting with people. Before any words are exchanged I size customers up by their appearance and approach them according to what my visual assessment says about their personality. Here’s where my owl drawings come in. Not only can you see which one best reflects YOU, but I’ll describe them as if they are customers bringing me dirty clothes.

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If a sanguine owl were to bring her polka dot purse in for a good scrub, she’d be VERY easy to identify. The big “blingy” necklace around her neck is a great clue. Sanguine personalities LOVE accessories. Female sanguines love jewelry, hair decorations, and, on most occasions, HUGE purses. Male sanguines add fun little touches like colorful shoes, suspenders, or whacky ties and socks. Both genders have fun showing off unconventional hair styles. (more…)

Posted by on August 8th, 2013 5 Comments

Introvert Revelations – Part 2: I Want It, But I Can’t

Oh the internal struggle that perplexed me  until I discovered my personality. As a phlegmatic/sanguine blend I now understand the tug of war that has been my constant companion since I was a little girl. Its roots started with my introverted primary personality (phlegmatic), but were complicated with my extrovert blend (sanguine.)

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As a little girl and teen I always had SOME idea tumbling around in my head: you know, the typical girl stuff like boys, dating, dogs, and a few sports. However, I was never insistent about any of it.

  • For my 10th birthday I wanted a basketball hoop because I wanted to play just like my look alike cousin when I got to high school.. Well, I got the hoop, but it never was put up. I don’t know why, it just lay useless in our bike garage. Being phlegmatic, I was OK with that. Had I been sanguine, I would have pestered my parents until it was erected. Had I been choleric, I would have demanded they get it up (or I would have done it myself). If I had been melancholy, I would have sunk into a depression and guilted the folks into putting it up. But, alas, I was phlegmatic and despite wanting it, I let it go. (more…)

Posted by on May 31st, 2013 2 Comments

Introvert Revelations – Part 1: Dating

I recently had a conversation with a fellow middle-aged introvert . . . she recently had a revelation about dating. That, in turn, provided me a similar revelation. What I’m about to share has been something, that for years, neither she nor I understood about ourselves. We though we were just weird.

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Her Story

In high school my friend moved around a lot, but landed in a high-school where she quickly caught the attention of the star athlete, and “big-man-on-campus”. He made it clear he was smitten with her, and she was quite taken with him. Not too long into their “boyfriend/girlfriend” days, he introduced her to his friends and shortly thereafter, he broke up with her. As a melancholy introvert, she didn’t understand and was deeply hurt . . . until recently when I posted the following on my Facebook page:

Introvert Problem #76 – People sometimes mistake you as an extrovert because you can be so outgoing

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Posted by on May 7th, 2013 7 Comments

Opposite Yet Similar?

How can opposite personalities be similar? I know it sounds weird, but that’s exactly how it works. Let’s start with the choleric and phlegmatic personalities.

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Choleric and Phlegmatic

For those of you familiar with the choleric personality you’ll remember that this is the most intense of the four personality types. They bring an unseen force when they inter a room . . .  what kind of force depends on if they are in a good mood (positive) or bad mood (negative). You never know what to expect from the unseen energy of a choleric. They are go-getters who thrive on accomplishment. They also enjoy recognition for the many things they accomplish. (more…)

Posted by on May 2nd, 2013 4 Comments

Girls’ Day Out with a Phlegmatic/Sanguine and Choleric/Melancholy!!

Once upon a time, a phlegmatic/sanguine and a choleric/melancholy planned a “Girls’ Day Out.”  Well, actually it was just last weekend and the phlegmatic/sanguine was me, and the choleric/melancholy was my friend, CM. Oh my, what a hilarious study of our two personality blends. I wish you all could have been “flies on the wall”, because it was quite entertaining. But I’ll do my best to fill you in on all the laughs.

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The Planning

Getting a phlegmatic and choleric to take time for a social event can be daunting. Phlegmatics are procrastinators who are terrible about making plans – it is so much easier to stay home and just “be”. Combine that with a mission-minded choleric who wears several professional hats and is always marching along the path of practicality, and a day of girly fun rarely materializes between the two. Well, finally after 5 years of threatening (has it really been THAT long?…maybe just a year), CM and I got intentional and our day of shopping actually happened. (more…)

Posted by on April 27th, 2013 4 Comments

Oh No, She Didn’t: Political Personalities – The Shepherds

It’s pretty evident that our system (probably ANY political system for that matter) has it’s share of sheep and wolves as discussed in the first two posts in this series. However, what happens when political SHEPHERDS burst onto the scene?

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What exactly IS a shepherd? According to dictionary.com it is one who protects and guides. I’d like to also add a term I saw floating around the Internet: keeps the flock together. So, armed with a definition let’s see what we can learn about a political shepherd. (more…)

Posted by on April 18th, 2013 1 Comment

Oh No, She Didn’t: Political Personalities, The Wolves

Political sheep were the focus of my last post. Today, we are looking at political wolves. Now, to be honest, if you took a cross-section of American voters and non-voters, much of who someone “considers” a wolf is based on one’s ideology or party affiliations. Despite having strong views my goal is not to turn this into a political forum, but rather share with you unbiased information about personalities that you can use as a tool to better understand those who would be our leaders.

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So, what, exactly is the definition of a “wolf”? Well, as one would expect, I got a lot of the animal description such as “canine” and “large dog,” but obviously that isn’t exactly what I was looking for even though I giggled at the many unflattering canine traits that fit some of our current leaders. However, when they got into wolf behavior. . . . I hit the jackpot!! Here we go into some material we can really sink our teeth into: (more…)

Posted by on April 7th, 2013 1 Comment