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Spiritual Personalities, Part 2 – Choleric

Some people are hard core in everything they do. If you or anyone you know leans toward intensity this post is for you, because next  on the topic of spiritual personalities is the fiery choleric.

Heart of Flames

Choleric people make the world go round. Things get done because God put this personality on earth. They are mission-minded and intense. They are quick thinkers, decisive, and rarely let a good challenge get away. Like the outgoing sanguine, choleric people fall in the extrovert category, but instead of enjoying the social/fun aspect of people, they are more comfortable leading a group. Not only are they intensely loyal, but they expect loyalty from those around them. (more…)

Posted by on July 23rd, 2013 1 Comment

Spiritual Personalities, Part 1 – Sanguine

How do personalities affect our approach to God?

As a Christian Personality Mechanic, I find this topic fascinating and wanted to share some of my observations with you. It may help you understand others, but better yet, it may help you feel more comfortable with who YOU are when it comes to God’s kingdom.

Sanguine personalities are people people. They tend to be warm, fun, lively, and talkative. People are drawn to them so it isn’t unusual for them to be surrounded by a sea of friends everywhere they go. Their mantra is the “the more the merrier!”  They are talkers and usually have a good or personal adventure to share with anyone who will lend an ear. A Bible verse that meshes well with this vibrant personality is Psalm 32:11: “Celebrate God. Sing together — everyone! All you honest hearts, raise the roof!” (Psalm 32:11 MSG)

Girl lifting Heart

View of God

Many of the sanguine person’s emotional needs involve feeling accepted. They tend not to be harsh and, likewise, don’t like it when others are harsh toward them. They view God as the affectionate father . . . much like a endeared “Daddy”. Spiritual sanguines enjoy a close relationship that resembles a child curling up in a parent’s lap. There is nothing more accepting to this personality than that type of closeness with others, even in the spiritual realm. Christian sanguines see Jesus as their best friend . . . someone they can turn to and lean on when their world is not a happy place. He is also someone to rejoice with when all is good. It isn’t unusual to see a sanguine lost in worship while his or her heart is filled with love. (more…)

Posted by on June 27th, 2013 3 Comments

Trouble is a Brewin’ – Part 4, Laid-Back vs Indifferent

No one really wants to be “uptight” when “laid-back” carries a more positive message. However, in phlegmatic world sometimes being too laid-back leads to an appearance of indifference. This often has far-reaching effects in the calm waters that characterize the phlegmatic personality.

This personality is like a slow, trickling brook meandering through a quiet mountain forest. Phlegmatics have a natural ability to make others feel at ease just like a hiker who stumbles upon the peaceful waters of a hidden stream. Phlegmatic people are diplomatic, easy to get along with, and rarely create drama. They avoid conflict and tend to be quite happy melding with the desires of others.

This all sounds great, but sometimes the laid-back character of the phlegmatic morphs into indifference. (more…)

Posted by on November 27th, 2012 4 Comments

Trouble is a Brewin’ – Part 3, The Perfect People

Most people know, in their hearts, that nobody is perfect, but there are some people who haven’t quite settled that thought in their heads. This often sets the sensitive, deep-feeling melancholy up for a disappointment.

Most people want their homes to look presentable. Many people, when entertaining others in their homes or preparing for holiday festivities, expect much more . . . they envision perfection. Not only do they want their homes to look like a magazine cover, but they expect their holiday celebrations to look like the meticulously arranged photo on a greeting card! Trouble is a brewin’ for all who step into the world of a melancholy who strives to achieve the idealistic, but not realistic, world of perfection. (more…)

Posted by on November 16th, 2012 No Comments

Trouble is a Brewin’ – Part 2, The People Repeller

Controlling. Bossy. Intense. Prickly.

Do those words describe anyone you know? Maybe they epitomize a family member or co-worker . . . a friend or neighbor. Are there people in your life that make you feel like you constantly walk on egg shells? Or do you avoid certain conversations because their reactions leave you feeling inadequate or unsettled? If you answered YES to any of those questions, you may be involved with a choleric personality. Choleric people that do not effectively control the intense parts of their personalities often repel people, and this can lead to estranged relationships.

As with the other personalities, trouble is a brewin’ when the choleric does not reign in their weaknesses. (more…)

Posted by on August 24th, 2012 No Comments

Trouble is a Brewin’ – Part 1, The People Pleaser

Sandra dreaded the holidays . . . and she had reason. Her family expected her to throw a celebration fit for royalty. Christmas in Sandra’s world included decorating her place to rival Santa Claus’s house, cooking like Martha Stewart, and a limousine to shuttle out-of-town guests. Every year people expected more and more, and her yuletide budget had exploded to $10,000! But, Sandra knew that if she didn’t go to such extreme measures her family would be disappointed.

The above scenario is true and may sound crazy to many of you,  but if you are “people pleaser” maybe you can relate. (more…)

Posted by on July 24th, 2012 1 Comment

Gracious Girlfriends, Part 4 – Phlegmatic

In this four-part series about gracious girlfriends, we’ve talked about sanguine, choleric, and melancholy friends. Today, it is time for the phlegmatic to be in the spotlight. This relaxed and inoffensive personality is the peaceful girlfriend. Although she is well-loved by just about everyone, this girlfriend has weaknesses.

Phlegmatic Traits

Unlike the other personalities, phlegmatic people usually don’t have traits that stand out. For example, a sanguine can overwhelm others with their exuberance, cholerics can be bossy and blunt, while melancholy friends can b moody and critical. Phlegmatics tend to be even keeled which usually means they don’t have any outlandish characteristics that bother others. Other nice traits of this personality include a diplomatic nature and a “go-with-the-flow” attitude. They are comfortable letting others take the lead in the relationship whether it means choosing activities or setting the tone for the overall relationship. (more…)

Posted by on July 5th, 2012 No Comments

Gracious Girlfriends, Part 3 – Melancholy

So far we’ve delved into the sanguine and choleric girlfriend. The “perfect” girlfriend (aka the “melancholy) is our spotlight today. This girlfriend tends to be the most sensitive of all the personality types. As with all the temperaments, she brings many wonderful traits to any friendship, but isn’t without her own set of challenges.

Melancholy Traits

Even before you get to know a melancholy friend she may appear stand-offish. This happens because they are natural introverts. All that means is that people and activity tend to drain them so they can be a little harder to get to know. However, once they feel comfortable around you they often display wonderful senses of humor and warmth. They tend to be more sensitive than the other personalities, but when they project onto others (instead of internalizing it), their warmth radiates to others. This personality tends to exhibit a high standard in everything they do . . . this often translates into manners and social etiquette. They aim at these things with the arrow of perfection. (more…)

Posted by on July 2nd, 2012 No Comments

Gracious Girlfriends, Part 2 – Choleric

In part 1 of this series we looked at the sanguine girlfriend. Today the choleric takes center stage. This personality makes a wonderful friend, but also poses some unique challenges. Understanding personalities will help you navigate the dynamic a choleric female brings to a friendship.

Choleric Traits

Male or female, this is the most intense of the four personality types. They tend to take things more seriously than most people and they take quick action when needed (and sometimes when not needed). They are goal-oriented extroverts which translates into a whirl of activity. A choleric girlfriend clothes herself with practicality, loyalty, and a small circle of close friends. She organizes “missions” for her and her friends to embark on, and is not afraid to offer plenty of suggestions/strategies how to accomplish activities/ideas that originate with others . Choleric girlfriends LOVE figuring out how to make things happen. They are fiercely loyal and expect the same from their friends. (more…)

Posted by on June 27th, 2012 4 Comments

Gracious Girlfriends, Part 1 – Sanguine

Using personalities as a tool removes a lot of negative vibes in relationships because they helps us understand each other. This is very true when it comes to girlfriends. I’ve had friendships come and go over the years, but after becoming familiar with personalities, I feel that my more recent relationships are healthier. Today we are going to look at the sanguine girlfriend.

Sanguine Traits

Sanguine girls/women are bright and lively in just about everything they do. Popular is a word often used to describe these energetic people. Popularity comes naturally for personalities who love people, make friends easily, tell wonderful stories and jokes, and are great conversationalists. If you have spent any time with a sanguine then you know they are warm, engaging, charming, and make the world a happy place. They are great fun if they don’t wear you out with their high-energy and talkative tendencies. (more…)

Posted by on June 23rd, 2012 5 Comments