Archive for the ‘Personality Stories – Melancholy’ Category

Gracious Girlfriends, Part 3 – Melancholy

So far we’ve delved into the sanguine and choleric girlfriend. The “perfect” girlfriend (aka the “melancholy) is our spotlight today. This girlfriend tends to be the most sensitive of all the personality types. As with all the temperaments, she brings many wonderful traits to any friendship, but isn’t without her own set of challenges.

Melancholy Traits

Even before you get to know a melancholy friend she may appear stand-offish. This happens because they are natural introverts. All that means is that people and activity tend to drain them so they can be a little harder to get to know. However, once they feel comfortable around you they often display wonderful senses of humor and warmth. They tend to be more sensitive than the other personalities, but when they project onto others (instead of internalizing it), their warmth radiates to others. This personality tends to exhibit a high standard in everything they do . . . this often translates into manners and social etiquette. They aim at these things with the arrow of perfection. (more…)

Posted by on July 2nd, 2012 No Comments

Understanding the Sanguine/Melancholy Couple

Have you ever wondered what an enthusiastic, fun-loving girl sees in a quiet, meticulous man? Or what how a neat and tidy person tolerates someone who leaves total disarray in their wake? Understanding personalities sheds light on these often perplexing realities.

Why are so many people drawn to their exact opposite? Do you remember that famous line in the Tom Cruise movie, Jerry McGuire . . . “you complete me”? That is so true – we tend to be attracted to our opposites because they have what we don’t. The sanguine/melancholy couple is a great example of that premise. (more…)

Posted by on June 12th, 2012 11 Comments

Matching People Personalities with the Right Stuffy!

I hope you enjoy my first EVER vlog (video blog). I’ve been wanting to present “stuffy” personalities for a long time, but it seemed to me that just writing such a post would not do the subject justice. SO . . . when I recently learned the steps of making a vlog, I knew the time was right for this long awaited topic.

As with most things there is room for improvement, and since I haven’t mastered the art of editing (actually, I have NO clue how to edit and I don’t really want to learn right now) there is ONE place I ask you to watch for so you are not confused. After I describe the SANGUINE stuffy, I move to the CHOLERIC. I accidentally use the term “sanguine” in two places when I meant to say “choleric”. Just be on the lookout and that won’t trip you up. And, I promise that after a long enough time of procrastinating (a personality trait in phlegmatic people like me) I will learn how to fix such boo-boos.


©2012 Shona Neff

Posted by on June 8th, 2012 No Comments

Personalities and Prince Charming

Valentine’s Day has come and gone, but June is the month for weddings.

Personalities play a big part in the world of nuptials and, believe it or not, we tend to marry our opposite. We fall in love with all the strengths of our beloveds, but after the honeymoon we often discover we married their weaknesses. Personalities are a tool that help us understand the person we marry and today we are going to look at the different princes through the lens of personalities.

Prince Sanguine . . . the True Charmer

The sanguine hubby tends to be spontaneous, creative, and fun. This is evident in everyday life and life in the bedroom (or possibly other fun and funky locations.) They love whimsical activities and games and often have as many words as women that they need to speak in a given day. That’s why the sanguine personality is known as the talker. The sanguine prince uses all these traits to be truly charming. (more…)

Posted by on June 3rd, 2012 2 Comments

Workplace Personalities, Part 3 – Want It Done Right?

Want a job done right? . . . who ya gonna call? A MELANCHOLY!

That’s right, the melancholy personality will get the job done right, and with attention to detail.

The Pursuit of Perfection

Anyone familiar with this temperament knows that they seek out perfection as if it was a buried treasure. They add a new dimension to the phrase “well done.” This is an employers dream. A melancholy on the job pays attention to detail and will polish a project until it shines bright. The one draw back to (more…)

Posted by on May 22nd, 2012 No Comments

Preschool Personalities, Part 3 – Melancholy, Who’s the Most Sensitive of them All?

Every day when her mother dropped her off, it was the same thing . . . fifteen minutes of huge water droplets falling from the big brown eyes of the crying child. Her mother constantly assured me that, when at home, the tot talked of all the fun she had at preschool and how much she loved Miss Shona. Meet Kayla – the sensitive one.

Navigating Preschool

Kayla was one of the most delight children I had the privilege of teaching when I headed up a class of diaper-clad tots. However, it didn’t take long for me to notice that navigating through a day full of energetic peers wasn’t always easy for little Kayla. First, although she loved her time at “school” it was hard for her to see her momma go. Crying was such a ritual when Kayla was dropped off, that we hardly noticed it by the end of the school year. She would cry for 10 to 15 minutes, and then be ready for the day. (more…)

Posted by on April 15th, 2012 No Comments

Mitt Romney: Miss America?

Before I go any further, I’m not trying to be derogatory toward either Mitt Romney or Miss America. But, I DO see similarities between the two as I observe the current primary. I must also say that what I’m seeing Mr. Romney’s personality is not a distinct as Rick Santorum’s or Newt Gingrich’s.

(Let me remind you that I am making long-distant assessments and sharing my observations from a personality standpoint. Some traits are obvious, but personal contact helps answer questions that need closer observation. I would love to be able to provide that, but cannot since I don’t know any of the candidates. One on one would have been extremely helpful in writing this post.) (more…)

Posted by on January 30th, 2012 2 Comments

Four Personalities, One Assumption to Live By – Part 3 Melancholy

In this series we have looked at the one assumption from the angle of the sanguine and choleric personalities. Today the melancholy temperament takes center stage. Just to review, the ONE assumption that works for all four personality types is this:

Don’t assume everyone is interested in what you have to say.

This may sound a little mean especially for a sensitive personality with such of wealth of information to share, but for you melancholy readers, don’t feel defeated. I know you have important things to share with the world, but this assumption can serve you well if you’ll give it a chance. (more…)

Posted by on January 15th, 2012 No Comments

2012: Resolution Solutions – Part 1

I don’t know about you, but New Year’s Resolutions give me a headache. Well, they used to. I always had such high hopes of accomplishing great things, but I usually failed miserably when it came time to follow through. How about you? What do you think of the self-improvement game as we flip the calendar to 2012?

For years my well-intentioned plans floated to the floor like the festive confetti of New Year’s Eve only to be swept away like yesterday’s trash. My resolutions were left behind as time marched forward. Ever been there? It’s quite depressing. However, when I learned about personalities I gained a new and improved outlook toward New Year’s resolutions. It made all the difference in the world and I want to share some practical solutions for those struggling with the traditional self-improvement of the season.

Tips for the Task Oriented

Choleric and melancholy personalities have a better chance of succeeding than do the sanguine and phlegmatic people of the world. The fact that they are the task-oriented temperaments gives them the edge. (more…)

Posted by on December 31st, 2011 No Comments

Personalities and Thanksgiving Potluck

Thanksgiving Day is just around the corner. It seems appropriate to explore each personality and the way they approach big, potluck gatherings. If your house is anything like mine, you never know what personalities will show up.

Many families choose a buffet-style, pot-luck meal that accommodates the large number of people that gather in one place. This is a great idea and works well. However, keep the different personalities in mind. Celebrations with lots of people are a lot like the annual migrations of the wildebeest: full of adventures.


Posted by on November 20th, 2011 2 Comments